Dr. Kegel

Ok, how many of you know what a KEGAL is?  No it is not the cheaper Kia version of the automobile the Regal.  The Kegel is an exercise that was named after a renowned Gynecologist Arnold Kegel.  The Kegel exercise consists of contracting and relaxing the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor. Which are now known as the KEGEL MUSCLES?  You must know a lot about VAGINA to have a part of it named after you. I personally would love to meet this Dr. Arnold Kegal. (or my Vagina would anyway.) This exercise is used to strengthen the pelvic floor which consists of the entire area also known as DOWN YONDER.  This muscle supports the Urethra, Bladder, Rectum and Uterus.    So this professor of VAGINA, Dr. Arnold Kegel, he created this VAGINAL MANOMETOR which measures the strength of the pelvic floor muscles.  He did this after observing that the muscles of the pelvic floor weakened after childbirth.  Just imagine how much Vagina he had to study to come to this conclusion. So Kegel Exercises are very important for so many reasons.  I can think of several reasons why I would need strength in the Urethra, Bladder, Rectum and Uterus areas.  I mean several reasons.  All of great importance, but let’s talk about the obvious.  "The strength of the Vagina"  Dr. Arnold figured out that by tightening and relaxing the muscles in that entire region it would strengthen the muscles and make them tighter and give you more control.  So no matter how big that baby was you pushed out. (yes I said YOU)  it will contract and can be restored to its original size.   It is a muscle just like any other muscle in the body the more you work it out the more toned it is and fit and in shape it will be.   Kegel Exercises are very easy, I am doing mine now. Although I did not have any vaginal deliveries with my 3, and no I am not ashamed to say, I still do my Kegel Exercises.  Usually if you get up past about 20 flexes they can be very stimulating and at that point you may lose focus on whatever it is your doing.  Try it now. ……….. Yes……. I’ll Wait………. 20 times, do it. ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….  Yes you get a little distracted after 20 flexes Down Yonder Huh?   I like to do them at Every Stop Light.   Do them at ever stop sign.  Whenever it is you can work them into your schedule, But do it. The importance of you doing them can be very pleasing to both you and your partner.  Yes Working the Kegel muscle during sex can be enjoyed by both you and your partner.  If you have never done it PITY YOU.  WOW. You are missing out.  SO is your mate.  Yes it can help give your Monkey the KUNG FU GRIP. But it can also be very orgasmic to flex that muscle during sex causing for a more intense and pleasurable orgasmic experience.   So yes I encourage you to Work that Kegel.  The Vagina is a very fascinating part of your body, Get to know it. Learn the movements as well as the strength of the muscle that you control with the power of your mind. Have MIND SEX with yourself later by doing Kegels. Stand and Gimmie 50 Kegels!!!  It can be very pleasing.  So until next time here are some tips and tricks to help you with your Kegel Exercises, Deuces!!!

How to do Kegel exercises

It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:

§  Find the right muscles. Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor return to the starting position. You can also try to stop the flow of urine when you urinate. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream, though. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.

§  Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Contract your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.

§  Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.

§  Repeat three times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking email, commuting to work, preparing meals or watching TV.

Lead Man or Xtra?? U decide.

Ok my last blog was kinda “out there”, but hey that is my whole purpose for blogging in the first place, I want to discuss things people have always wondered but no one really ever discusses. Nothing is off limits not even hiding panties in the laundry.  My next question is for the fellas!!  Toys!?! So a lot of women enjoy them, but how do you really feel about them? Do they intimidate you? Do they make you feel less of a man? Unwanted?? Not Needed?  I am curious; truth is, so are a lot of other woman.  I will break it down for you. Yes I have been doing fun parties for over 10 years, I talk to a lot of women about Sex, and toys, and stimulation, lubrication, masturbation, vibration, fornication, penetration, relaxation ….. OK! OK you get it. A  “ation” of subjects where sex is concerned.  One thing you must understand, I don’t sell anything, that will or can replace a man or woman. Nothing!! Did you hear that?  Nothing, and I sell a lot of shit.  But nothing can take the place of the real thing.  Using toys is nothing more than Fore"Play" with her as the director. If you don’t take the time to communicate with your woman about what turns her on, instead of sticking your damn chest out and thinking you know, then basically you’re just an extra in her fore“PLAY” that she is attempting to direct, but she wants to cast you as the Lead Actor but the wrong attitude can make you just an "XTRA" and her Toy "the lead".  Chances are if you don’t communicate, what she enjoys, where she likes to be touched, and how, and even why it feels good, then you are suppose to be intimidated by a toy.  You have a very important role in the fore"PLAY".  You’re the "Lead Actor".  But if you are not sure why she enjoys it or finds it pleasurable, you are the one in working as a xtra, because you feel as if she is replacing you, or she likes the toy better.  Not the case guys.  First of all let’s get this straight, no matter how experienced you are, every woman and I mean every woman is different.  What worked with the last woman you were with does not mean it will work with her. Using toys does not make you a freak ladies, So don’t let him or anyone make you feel that way.  Toys just add to the fun of it all. Don’t get me wrong, Sex  should be very intimate and passionate, and romantic.  It is a special way to connect with your partner, and it is suppose to be pleasurable.  Sometimes toys may take away the passion, and romance. But that only happens if you allow it to.  There is nothing uncomfortable about stimulating her with a bullet in order to make her reach a height of passion and pleasure.   There is nothing wrong with watching her do it either.  There is nothing wrong with wanting more than just penis and vaginal stimulation.  There is nothing wrong with wanting more than oral stimulation and penetration.  Toys make it easier to reach certain levels of ecstasy.  I have never nor will I ever recommend that a woman purchase  a 6-9 inch toy as her first purchase. My customers know that.  If you have never used a toy in your relationship or with your partner, I suggest you start out with a bullet. They are small and they are not intimidating. They are $12 bucks.  You have to crawl before you walk.  A bullet when used effectively can cause female ejaculation or cause multiple orgasms.  So if you use it alone or with your partner, Trust me, no one can have a problem with it. After that orgasm is reached, that does not mean the play has ended.  Scene Two can now start and the "lead actor" can now take the stage, Question is, IS IT YOU?? 

 Now to my ladies who are single, I still would say yes you need a bullet as well, But I would also recommend a Toy that would penetrate and be more fulfilling than a standard bullet. I have several suggestions, I personally would want to go with a toy that would give both a gspot orgasm as well as a vaginal orgasm, one that is curved, and stimulates the clitoris as well.  I will do a Video Blog soon and show you some options.  So Suggest me to your friends and subscribe to my Blogs, email with any questions, or comment on this post. I look forward to your comments and feedback as well.  Have a Good day, Oh By The Way, I heard it was Fornication Friday.  Go Celebrate!!  Keep it Clean, Keep it Monogamous, and Keep it SAFE!!  Deuces!!

Panty Draws!!!

Question for you ladies, I know I am not the only one that has seen this or had it happen. Why do you think the color in the crotch of the panties seems to fade them as if they were bleached?? Am I the only one that takes off her undies and finds myself hiding them in the hamper, I refuse to let anyone else wash my underwear. Not just for fear of my good Vicki's getting ruined, but I don't want anyone to see just how moist I may have gotten throughout the day.  Sometimes I even go so far as to fold the seat and stuff them down the leg of my jeans. Dropping the panties on the floor with the crotch open and up is so not lady like. But do we all go so far as to stuff or hide them, like the panty police will come and tell you your vagina is secreting more fluids than normal. Or am I the only one?  Surely this is just a normal habit women have. I am certain I am not alone on this. I would love to hear your thoughts as well as opinions on what you think causes the faded color to the crotch of the panties.

I will give you my theory on why I think it is. I do think it has something to do with the acidic fluids that the vagina gives off. I mean it is a self cleaning oven. Maybe it's EASY OFF. ROFLMAO. It could be the natural cleaner that expels during certain times. Causing it to act as a bleach like substance that will fade the panties during normal washing over time. I am not certain of this to be fact just simply my theory. I know my panties are not the only ones faded in the crotch. If you tell me they are, your a freaking LIAR. Some woman wear panty liners to help with the issue. That can get expensive I am sure, which is why so many of us just tuck and hide 'em til laundry day, wash em and keep it movin. Now if your one of these women who just drop em in the floor fonky crotch up, I'm gonna have to ask you to NOT!! You just may end up busted by the FONKY MONKEY POLICE.  Not a Good Look.  Can't wait to hear your comments on this topic.  Oh BTW I do have a product Called Perky Panties I will feature in one of my up and coming Video Blogs I will be posting. So Stay Tuned.  Until Next time. Deuces!! 

My First Time

Don't you just love the first time you do anything you're excited about. Well this is my first time blogging. I have been saying I was going to start a blog for a long time. WELL HERE IT IS. I am just worrying a little about if I may end up boring you.  Well I can promise you this, I will speak openly and honestly about everything. I am thinking of adding a VIDEO blog to go with it. Weekly of course. I will blog about whatever is current, whatever is on my mind, which if you know me you will realize it is usually all over the place. So Subscribe and Try your best to keep up. I am sure you will enjoy.  If you follow me on Facebook then you will more than likely know how my mind works. Yes I will blog about everything that goes on in my life. You will learn that I am not perfect in any way nor do I claim to be or try to be.

You want to know who I am, (just in case you don't already) Well I am a Married, I have 3 daughters, I will talk about them often. Considering they pretty much run every damn day of my life.  I consider myself a good mother, a good wife, but hey we all have room for improvement. RIGHT!!!  I have been with my husband for almost 12 years, We have 2 daughters together, I have a daughter from my previous marriage.  So yea I have a ex husband. (not really too much drama there) I am home with my 4 year old, and I work from home most of the time, I do what is commonly known as Fun Parties. Yes!! I sell Sex Toys. No way to sugar coat that. My customers have nicknamed me ThaSeXpert. I study it, I talk about openly, I read about it and relationships daily. So yes I will be blogging about that often. I have been doing Fun Parties since 1999. I Love what I do. No other way of explaining that. It's like hanging with friends every weekend. I take what I do very seriously. While some people joke about it often. I am very dedicated to bringing accurate information and helping couples maintain a certain amount of fulfilling intimacy in the bedroom.  I have had customers tell me I saved their marriage, That in itself is very fulfilling. I talk to teens about safe sex, and I promote safe sex and monogamy.  I don't do Fun Parties to get rich, I do them to help people, and Mainly because I enjoy it.  I study the products and I explain them so people can understand the use and benefits of them. I am alway open to questions or discussions so if you ever want to email me a question or have a question you want me to post anonymously Feel free to contact me by EMAIL. I am always open for interesting topics or discussions. I will keep it very Discreet and never ever would I reveal any personal information.  So that is enough about me for today, Subscribe and stick around, You won't be sorry.